Some people say that passion often flows when a man and a woman are left in a room long enough. This seems to be true of some service jobs that pitch both sexes together as service providers and clients.
Dalliance between male hairstylists and female clients
Kunle Olutayo, a male hair stylist, gets an average of ten female customers a day.
Although not bad in terms of good looks, Olutayo grew up as a shy little boy, particularly around girls until his painful fortune changed about seven years ago when he became a hairstylist. Shortly after starting the job following a six months’ training, Olutayo could not believe his luck.
With an endless string of female customers, he no longer had to worry about his failing nerves since some of his female customers were woman enough to take the initiative.
Olutayo was busy fixing the hair of one of his numerous female customers when our correspondent visited the salon he shares with four other stylists around the famous Ikeja Under-bridge in Lagos.
As he attached a weave-on to the customer’s hair, the two joked about the lady’s receding hairline. Some of the customer’s hair was falling off at the front and Olutayo teased her about it being one of the signs of old age.
Olutayo is close to many of his customers and has dated a few, even though he repeatedly described it as bad for business. When he was still new on the job, he was overwhelmed by the surplus number of women he encountered daily and so indulged himself when he could.
However, Olutayo has since learnt a few lessons.
“This job is not for womanisers. If you’re a womaniser, stay away from this job because you will continue to lose money. When I first started the job, it exposed me to so many women for the first time. I used to be very shy but on this job, I met women who seduced me. Some of the women would seduce their stylists to avoid paying for the service, which also means not paying on subsequent visits.
“So a womaniser has a lot to lose as a hairstylist. Now, I’ve learnt my lesson, I no longer sleep with my clients anyhow. I only date one lady customer now and that limits my loss. Before now, I used to forgo a lot of money to female customers that I had affairs with,” he said.
Explaining how his seducers perform their act, Olutayo demonstrated with his eyes, feigning sexual interest and willingness and hands, rubbing on our correspondent, who had briefly assumed the role of a stylist.
“The women won’t open their mouths to say they want any hairstylist, but once they are seated and you’re about to start fixing their hair, they can say they don’t have money and need to fix their hair for an important occasion, or say they can only afford an amount not up to half the price of the materials to be used and the service.
“While they are appealing, they are caressing you with their hands and looking at you with funny eyes (seductively). Some may call ahead to say they don’t have money. In such cases, negotiations can be done over the phone.
“If I’m interested, I only have to tell the customer that I’ve always liked her and ask for her affection in return. Almost 100 per cent of the time, they are open to an arrangement or rendezvous that could later lead to a hotel room,” he said sheepishly.
Special hotel booking called ‘short time,’ which is for an hour or two, is usually used for such rendezvous.
Saturday PUNCH findings reveal that many of the male hairstylists who actively womanise often fall under two categories- those who are new on the job and those who could not complete their apprenticeship for some reason.
A source explained that the newcomers are too inexperienced to deal with the temptations associated with their new job, while those in the other category are too grateful for their fortune in spite of their inability to complete their training that they over-indulge themselves in their good fortune.
“I look at some of them (hairstylist womanisers) and I shake my head. They lose in so many ways because if the customer cannot pay for the weave-on, the stylists may have to use their own weave-on as well, fix the hair free of charge, pay N1,500 or N2,000 for the ‘short time’ they will spend at the hotel with the customer, possibly buy drinks there and even miss one or two other customers that will call at their shops while they are away,” said Segun, a male hairstylist with eight years’ experience.
Although, the category of women who visit male hairstylists range from students to workers in practically all fields, from Olutayo’s experience, the women who are open to such dalliances are usually those referred to as club girls.
A cross section of male hairstylists said the next category of women usually open to having romance with them are single mothers. But with the single mothers, male hairstylists need not worry about not getting paid.
For instance, a male hairstylist, who identified himself as Johnson, narrated his experience with a female customer he once had a sexual affair with.
According to Johnson’s account, his romance with the woman started after his third visit to her Lekki residence for home service. Johnson does home service for customers who are willing to pay extra which has been factored in due to the distance, transportation cost and so on.
“The woman never negotiated any amount I charged and she always paid me.
“It started innocently when she asked me to come and fix her hair at home, before it later graduated to sex. She was a single mother with one daughter, so she usually asked me to come in the morning when her daughter would be in school,” Johnson said.
Johnson added that he had noticed that a lot of his older female customers like to date young boys judging by their discussions at the salon, jokingly, describing salons as homes of gossips and rumours.
Most women confirmed that they prefer male hairstylists to their female counterparts in a poll conducted by our correspondent.
‘I’m in love with male hairstylists’
One of the respondents who identified herself as Nkem, admitted to having fantasised about dating her “handsome male hairstylists” countless times but couldn’t bring herself to initiate a move.
“I actually go to the salon that I use because of the male hairstylists. They are very handsome and sometimes I wish that one of them would ask me out but it has not happened yet. I think male hairstylists are better than the female ones because a man would know what fits you better than a woman,” she said.
Another place that promises an abundance of passion is a massage parlour because it usually pitches both sexes together alone.
Visiting massage parlours for the wonders of the experienced hands of masseurs and masseuses is not yet a popular pastime in the country, however, the trend is growing by the day.
The idea of having a massage is therapeutic. It also helps the client to relax and be released of stress and body pains, but investigation shows that often times in Nigeria, clients wish for more than stress and pain relief. Our findings show that many male clients get sexually aroused and get an erection within a few minutes of body massage.
A cross section of masseuses said many of the clients who visit their parlours ask for ‘happy hours’ or ‘happy ending massages.’ These are erotic massages that end with hand jobs, blow jobs or sex.
“When some of the clients come in, they ask, ‘do you do happy hour or happy ending’ and we say no. The best thing is not to start what you won’t be able to finish; so we tell them that we don’t do such things here, but I know that some massage parlours do it abroad,” said Franca Oriakhi, the Managing Director of World Beauty Salon and Spa, Surulere, Lagos.
Another beauty therapist, Ruth Zobeashia of Rutiana Perfection Parlour, Ikeja in Lagos, also shared similar experiences on the job.
Zobeashia, who has had over 10 years’ experience as a masseuse, said, “Most of the Nigerian men who come here, once they see that it’s a beautiful lady that will attend to them, what goes to their head is sex after five minutes of massage.
“Some of them will say, ‘Can you suck me? Can you make me come? I will pay you extra for doing it.’ I tell them that we don’t offer anything beyond massage here. When I explain to them that I can’t do it, then they stop visiting. What most of them want is sex and not massage, really. It’s the whites (foreigners) who really understand the essence of massage and some blacks too that come here,” she said.
Zobeashia recalled how she had to escape through a bathroom window about seven years ago while giving a man a massage. The client had wanted sex also.
Recounting the incident, she said, “We get all kinds of harassment and embarrassment on the job. I was giving a man a massage one day when he insisted that he wanted to have sex with me. I told him that I needed to use the bathroom. It was through the window that I managed to get out.
“Some of the men will say that they have girls who tended to their needs where they used to have massage and so I tell them to go back there. One day, I asked a client demanding for sex if he would be happy if his wife was sleeping with her clients. I was shocked when he replied that he didn’t care, ‘after all, that’s her job.’”
Interestingly, some of the harassments are not limited to male clients, according to Zobeashia, who has received sexual invitations from female clients too. Some female clients who are lesbians also ask to be caressed and erotically fingered in their private regions during massages.
“Lesbians come here and want the same thing the men want. A man having trouble with his marriage once told me that he was advised by a friend to visit a massage parlour to get the sexual satisfaction his wife denied him at home,” she continued with a surprise look on her face.
Investigation indeed shows that some massage parlours offer sexual pleasures in Ikeja, Ikoyi and Lekki areas of Lagos. Many of such parlours keep the information within a circle, largely made up of foreigners.
A Briton who had a chat with our correspondent online named a few spas and massage parlours in Lagos that offer ‘happy hours’ or ‘happy ending’ massages. He also said there were masseurs and masseuses who service clients at home, with massage and sex.
“Some of us in the Nigerian white community patronise these places. Some Nigerians also know about them as well. There is a spa in Lagos with Asian women as masseuses, where clients can pay for what they want. Massage parlours that have happy endings are common in Asia, so maybe that’s why some Nigerians ask for such services here after experiencing it elsewhere,” he commented.
But that is not all; tattooists also deal with temptations from customers of the opposite sex. In Lagos, tattooists are predominantly males and are often required to tattoo on female erotic parts like the breasts, buttocks, thighs and the vagina (the female reproductive part).
Tattooists are seduced by clients too
A tattooist, Abisola Ojikutu of Bizzysaki Tattoo Studio, Ikeja, told our correspondent that he sometimes gets seduced by female clients, but quickly added that in spite of it, he still strives to maintain professionalism on the job.
“I tattoo almost all parts of the body, including body parts of members of the opposite sex because it’s my job. I tattoo their private parts and do breast enlargement and other stuff. Yes, seduction happens because we are humans but I act professionally. And I have to also consider my money, so I act like I’m not moved. Even if a lady seduces me as a tattoo celebrity, we suspend all till after work,” he said.